tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post5816660310799862256..comments2023-09-11T11:11:07.161-05:00Comments on STILL HOPEFUL: Too MuchMonica Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14767867041043811045noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-17995038695419070882008-05-23T19:04:00.000-05:002008-05-23T19:04:00.000-05:00You know you said something on your blog one day t...You know you said something on your blog one day that I thought about. You were sad when you met that lady at the cemetary and she had divorced. Your words struck home with me. <BR/>Although my DH and I don't always get along, I know the loss has brought us closer and I don't know how I would have gone through things without him. I'm grateful to have him.<BR/>I think it is great that your DH wants to do therapy. <BR/>I haven't done therapy, but I have heard that writing about your issues daily seems to help. I think our blogs help that.<BR/>I've thought about having a private blog like other poster suggested. Maybe that is an idea. We all have horrible thoughts that go through our heads. We know that there is some comfort knowing others know how we feel and have also been through it, but it is something we will never forget. It is something we have to live with daily.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06037934293607802134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-82985333880411015232008-05-22T19:37:00.000-05:002008-05-22T19:37:00.000-05:00This all sounds really, really hard. And, as you ...This all sounds really, really hard. And, as you said, it's just too much to have to deal with at the same time. I have to say that the sonogram/belly rubbing woman sounds completely passive-agressive. At some level -- even if only subconsciously -- she must be aware of how insensitive she's being.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-89708690004489727792008-05-21T20:13:00.000-05:002008-05-21T20:13:00.000-05:00Thank you for sharing all this...really. You have...Thank you for sharing all this...really. You have made me feel "normal" today, and that's a really hard task. I'm totally with you on having a bazillion things on my mind at once.<BR/><BR/>As to the ultrasound, I don't know how you do it in the first place. You are a crazy strong woman...be proud of that! Oh, and you should totally buy her a huge robe or sweatshirt. She should at least understand that much.<BR/><BR/>For your grandmother, I'm so sorry. I will keep her in my prayers.<BR/><BR/>Good luck tomorrow at the urologist office. Please let us know how it goes.mrsmuellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11270030590565650295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-10076012439008433242008-05-21T17:37:00.000-05:002008-05-21T17:37:00.000-05:00I'm glad you were able to get some of it out! I'm...I'm glad you were able to get some of it out! I'm sorry for all of the crazy stuff you are dealing with right now. I think it's great that your husband is going to talk to someone.froggy mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09206268669614593664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-90428808039749227912008-05-21T17:32:00.000-05:002008-05-21T17:32:00.000-05:00oh sweet lady. Sounds like you're weighed down wit...oh sweet lady. Sounds like you're weighed down with quite a bit. I wish i could help, i wish i could take some of it for you or make good things happen and rainbows appear. You have been quite and I should have emailed, despite being unemployed I've been busy, and i didn't want to well make you feel bad or left out. Lets hope that one day at a time and one thing at a time starts to sort itself out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-20590648777637671282008-05-21T17:29:00.000-05:002008-05-21T17:29:00.000-05:00I'm with everyone above. I'm so sorry you're havin...I'm with everyone above. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all of these things on top of grieving for your sons. Seems that LD's mom is a bit clueless even if she knows what happened with your boys. The last thing out of her mouth should be any complaining about her pg. Goodness.wannabe momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00975160438211356349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-74189426455544234332008-05-21T17:03:00.000-05:002008-05-21T17:03:00.000-05:00I absolutely understand that. But know, too, that...I absolutely understand that. But know, too, that we also read without judging you in any way, shape, or form. And really, since I don't know you IRL, you <I>are</I> sort of anonymous to me, at least...but I do consider you an anonymous friend, if that makes any sense.The Nannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09840319949362558089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-23097808269304806912008-05-21T17:01:00.000-05:002008-05-21T17:01:00.000-05:00I'm glad moving the ultrasound picture helped a li...I'm glad moving the ultrasound picture helped a little. Too bad she works at home.<BR/><BR/>If the situation gets too difficult, even if you love LD, maybe you need to nanny for someone else.<BR/><BR/>I am glad you are getting back into therapy. You may want to see if your local hospice offers counseling. Ours offers it for free, and our counselor was awesome. I think there is a link on my blog, if not there is one on my old blog.<BR/><BR/>I don't think you should ever worry about people judging you for your thoughts. When you go through something as painful as losing 2 children, your perspective changes a lot.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09708675281321049193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-17242659402254092292008-05-21T16:54:00.000-05:002008-05-21T16:54:00.000-05:00I've thought a private blog, but I don't know if t...I've thought a private blog, but I don't know if that is really the way to go. I feel the need to share with people/receive feedback on certain topics, but I'm afraid of being vulverable and having you all know these things about me. I almost want to write anonymously but with you all as an audience. But if you all were my audience, then I wouldn't be anonymous, would I?<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the supportive comments.Monica Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14767867041043811045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-5184776437930774652008-05-21T16:37:00.000-05:002008-05-21T16:37:00.000-05:00I was going to suggest what Coggy did--a private b...I was going to suggest what Coggy did--a private blog, either one for only you or for only the people you choose to read it...it does help enormously just to write things down.<BR/><BR/>I think about you a lot. I hope for better days for you (and Mr. H and your family). Hugs...The Nannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09840319949362558089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2982174673054423605.post-38971275970970777622008-05-21T15:31:00.000-05:002008-05-21T15:31:00.000-05:00It's horrible having so much milling around your h...It's horrible having so much milling around your head. <BR/><BR/>I think it's a good thing to seek out therapy again. If you recognize you are not coping then finding someone to talk to can only be a good thing. Kudos to Mr. H for going to see someone. You have a really lovely husband. <BR/><BR/>The sonogram picture and the rubbing the belly would get me every time. I would hate her. I have to see pregnant women at work, I now avoid talking to them whenever possible. I'm also at times quite mean when they suggest ideas or want to do something at work. I deliberately say something negative, not only because I'm filled with jealousy because they're pregnant, but because they are pregnant and nothing will go wrong for them. It's a pretty ugly thing for me to admit, but there you have it. I think it's just my coping mechanism.<BR/> I don't know if this is an option but could you work elsewhere? If it really is making you unhappy then maybe it's not worth it. <BR/><BR/>I'm just really sorry about all the other stuff that is going on in your life right now. I hope Mr. H's appointment gives you nothing to be concerned about. Sometimes life really does feel like an uphill struggle. <BR/><BR/>Maybe you should write out the things you don't know if you can say in a private blog that maybe only you have access to. I find it helps to write things out, even if only I read them. Just a thought. Then if you want to share you can always send invites out to people you feel you can share your writing with. Just a thought. <BR/><BR/>Hugs to you Monica x x x xCoggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07435179051565255934noreply@blogger.com