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Thursday, September 18, 2008

Here We Go Again

A brief conversation between me and A (LD's mom) today about the baby shower.

A: "I think I'm going to cancel the baby shower."

Me: "Why?"

A: "Because M (the host) is not feeling well and I don't want her to have to go through all the trouble of getting everything ready, if she doesn't feel good. We'll just do it another time."

Me: "okay."

A: "Maybe then you'll be able to come."

Me: "uh huh" (damn it!)

What now ?
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ETA: I realize while this is a very minor problem, it's still an issue I have to deal with. But it does not, in any way, compare to what the hurricane Ike victims are dealing with now. Check out these photos. They are devastating, gut wrenching, shocking, sad. My heart goes out to each and every one of them.

11 comments:

Rachel said...

Weird. Unless it is just the host and her that seems like a pretty big inconvenience.

You can have plans whenever you need them. Worse comes to worse, get sick on your way over.

Rachel said...

I meant for the other invited guests. Who is going to call all of them?

The Nanny said...

"Oh NO--what a weird coincidence I'm busy that day, too! I'll be up north visiting this awesome blogger chick!"

Antigone said...

I wouldn't even have one for myself. I can't imagine going to one for someone else.

Monica H said...

Rachel- She said she was going to call all the guests. I don't know how many there are but it seems kinda dumb to me. The host may not be feeling well today, but the shower isn't until Oct. 4th. I'm pretty sure she'll be feeling better by then.

I can hear the phone conversation now: "I was on my way to your baby shower, and I started thinking about it, and now I'm puking! I don't think I'm going to make it." Ha! That would be funny.

Nanny- I'll book my flight today. Wanna go get some Ben & Jerry's?

Antigone- I like baby showers in general, but I am so completely and utterly jealous of her. I can't go to her shower. I don't want her baby, I just want to be in her situation. And I know this is dumb, but all of her friends are South American. She is from V.enezuela and they all have that in common. I would stand out like a sore thumb. I have met some of her friends and they are really nice, but it's weird because even though I have been taking care of LD for several months now, that is all we have in common. I don't think I'd be her friend outside of work. In fact we barely talk to eachother when I'm there- maybe 5-10 minutes a day. It would be like inviting your hairstylist to a party. Sure you can carry on a conversation with them, but you don't really know them. It's all awkward.

I may be forced to pull a lie out of my ass this next time. Although I'm going to try to talk her into keeping the baby shower date that is already scheduled. I have a way with persuasion- it's one of my many talents.

Travelwahine said...

You're right, that is weird Oct. 4th is still a couple weeks ahead.

I totally understand where you're coming from, you don't want their baby just their situation. I get it.

Kristi said...

If she brings up rescheduling the party, say something like " Oh don't let me be the deciding factor, Mr. H & I are so busy the next few weekends."

You can always visit me - I know of a birthday party coming up soon that you'll be invited to. : )

theviewfromthisplace said...

ok, i think i'm slow, because i don't know why you would go if this lady is not feeling better, what does it have to do with you?
anyway..."damn it" is right.

she really wants you there, but you would feel so awkward and I get it. can i tell you something, it may seem awful. but just after Daniella died, my SIL came into town with her new baby. i did not go to meet the baby, and i thought that was pretty f*cked up of me, you know? (in my defense we had just received Daniella's ashes and it was the anniversary of Emi's due date -so it was a double whammy).
so if i could do it to my own SIL i would do it to anyone, you know. so you can imagine what i would do in this situation: not go.
i like kristi's idea too.
and don't feel like this is not a big deal because it absolutely is. it's a stark reminder of what we are missing - our beloved babies.

(oh and thanks, you did make me feel better!)

christyna said...

um didn't she MAIL the invites already? duh! I would have said um yeah probably not ha haha, I'm a sarcastic bitch tho.

you already rsvp'd that you can't make it, you didn't say you had plans, you said you can't make it, what does a date change? ha ha ha If they change the date then say oh would you like me to resend that email again?

and it is Sept people...Oct 4th is the day? hold it, I think on Thanksgiving my dog will have a migraine so can we do Thanksgiving dinner the following week?!?! ludicrous!

mrsmuelly said...

Maybe it won't actually get cancelled. Whatever weekend it moves to, you have plans with me! Come to Dallas. (so, pretty much what everyone else said)

missing_one said...

heh, you can just keep declining to your little heart's desire ;)