"IT'S NOT THE LENGTH OF THE GESTATION, IT'S THE EXTENT OF THE ATTACHMENT."


Monday, October 20, 2008

Homeward Bound

Mr. H's grandmother passed away this morning just shy of 4 am*.

Her breathing was labored, her breaths short. Her lungs were failing, her kidneys too. She wasn't eating or drinking. She slept all day. She had bed sores on her backside. She had dementia and didn't recognize any of us. She didn't say much and when she tried it was incomprehensible.

She was in the nursing home for 3 and a half years- the same amount of time Mr. H and I have been married. She was moved back into her old home with my in-laws about 6 weeks ago. During this time she had home health nurses and was well cared for but she grew weaker until her passing. She was 93 years old. She joins her husband (Grandpa Jack) who passed away 11 years ago, November 1st.

We miss her.

When does this sadness end? When???

*Dead hour is said to be between 3 and 4 am. I woke up at exactly 4 am when I started to go into labor with Sam. Jack was delivered (dead) at 3:07 am and now his grandmother passed away just before 4 am this morning. I wish I could skip this hour.

6 comments:

Virginia said...

I'm sorry, sweetie. Hugs to both of you.

The Nanny said...

I'm so very sorry. Thinking of you both and sending you thoughts of peace.

Becky said...

Oh Monica, I am so very sorry.

Please let me know if there is anything that I can do. Please tell Mr. H how very sorry we are as well. I think about you guys daily.

Monica said...

I'm so sorry. I'm sure she'll have her hands busy with Sam and Jack now.

Hugs for you and Sam.

jaded said...

i'm so very sorry for her passing.
"when does the sadness end?"...i wish i knew.

Kristi said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.